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Hey y’all! I’m sure I’m behind the curve, considering there’s more than 1 million copies sold, but I have found my new dating Bible: “Why Men Loves Bitches” by Sherry Argov. Not only will I be attempting to integrate this concept into my love life, but my future daughters will be forced to read this at 6-month intervals until they’re married.
Argov’s premise is that there are two types of women in this world, doormats and “bitches.” I can safely say that I fall smack-dab in the middle. However, I’ll be attempting to transition into full-blown B territory. Now, I had to explain this to my mom, as well… being a B doesn’t mean you’re nasty, rude, or arrogant. It simply means you’re independent, and you (as well as your partner) know you don’t need anyone else to make you happy.
“Why Men Love Bitches” offers a very unique perspective into why men gravitate towards women who are strong and self aware. Argov explains in grave detail that if you come across a man who doesn’t respect those attributes, run as fast as you can in the other direction, cause he’s a douchebag and doesn’t deserve your time.
In case you’re wondering if “Why Men Love Bitches” is actually a good read and not just a book that encourages women to become cold and calculated in relationships, I finished it in under 3 hours. It’s light, funny as heck, and extremely eye-opening. You’ll catch yourself saying, “Yep, that’s me”… not in a good way. I’d say that this book, in conjunction with the original “He’s Just Not That Into You” manual by Greg Behrendt, should be mandatory summer reading for all female students grades 3-12. Also, if you find yourself wanting more from Argov like I did, she continues the same kick-in-the-butt love advice with “Why Men Marry Bitches,” which is yet another one of the most iconic relationship books of the past few decades.
Any other brilliant books on relationships you recommend, love, and/or swear by? Let me know! I, for one, intend on doing nothing but sipping wine in my bathtub tonight, and a supplementary good read would be splendid. If you’re looking for some additional reading recommendations to boost your entrepreneurial spirit, you can check out my list of the best books for girlbosses to read in 2017 (and 2016 and 2015)! Happy reading!
Sounds like a really interesting book! I'm going to have to check it out 🙂
It's a great read… I'm on the verge of purchasing "Why Men Marry Bitches," as well 🙂 Hope you're having a great weekend, Kenzie!
xo,
Steph
Sounds like a great book! I like the concept! Some people get confused as to what is actually a bitch. Like men that meet a strong, independent, opinionated, woman may be apt to label her a bitch; I hate that! To me, they are just a$#holes! Excuse my language but I've met a lot of jerks in my day before I met my husband so I'm pretty experienced as to what is out there :o) And I agree, when you meet them, RUN the other way. There is nothing more attractive than a man that can take my sh#@! Nah, I'm just kiddin'. I don't really dish out sh#@! But if a man can respect my strong, independent self and love the fact that I have my own opinions, than that's the man I want to be with! I read something similar years ago. I think it was called Bitch in the House (something like that). It was very good :o)
I couldn't agree with you more. Thanks for your perspective 🙂 Gives me hope that there are decent ones out there! Hope you're having a great weekend.
xo,
Steph
Sounds like a great read, independence is important, xoxo.
Agreed. Hope you're having a great weekend, lady!
xo,
Steph
I am usually very skeptical of any book that offers marriage or dating advice because my past experiences have shown me that these types of books teach women nothing but how to be the perfect size 0 "damsel in distress" type so that they can land a man, any man. But if this book does actually encourage women to be more independent in order to land the right man who will respect them than I will give it a try.
That's the entire premise of the book. Women tend to lose their independence in relationships, and thereby place all their time and effort into pleasing their significant other. This book strongly discourages this (and basically calls you a doormat for engaging in this type of behavior). I found the advice very helpful; hopefully you will, too! Hope you're having a great weekend 🙂
xo,
Steph
Sounds like a great book, I can definitely think of a few people who probably need to read it.
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So can I, myself included (so no judgement, hah). Hope you're having a great weekend!
xo,
Steph
You had me at the title. I thought this post was going to be completely different than what it actually was…lol. The only relationship book I've read has been a couple's devotional Bible. Not sure that counts. Thank you for visiting BeQuoted. #sitssharefest
Haha, no, I don't actually condone being nasty, just self aware and confident 🙂 And yes, it counts! I'll check it out. So glad you stopped by, and I hope you're having a great weekend!
xo,
Steph
Oh, how I want to like this book. But WHY do we strong women have to be labeled "bitches"?? Because, no matter what one says, it's a negative connotation. I won't go into a rant on this but man.. we are never going to shake that title until we stop using that word.
Personally, I believe the term "bitch" is cleverly used as a dysphemism. I think it kind of mocks the mentality that independent women are regarded in such a negative light, since it is a ridiculously inappropriate term for a strong woman. I see what you're saying, but I interpreted it differently. Thanks for the feedback!
xo,
Steph
hi new follower here from the link up… ive read the book a few years back and found it very helpful in learning how not to be a doormat and let men take advantage
So glad to have you, lady! I know, I found it very useful, as well. Hope you have a wonderful week!
xo,
Steph
I wonder how much this book is like The Rules book. I must have broken a lot of rules in that book but live and learn. Off to check out the bitches book.
I've never heard of "The Rules," but it sounds like a good one! I just may have to make another Barnes and Noble run 🙂
xo,
Steph
I NEED to read this book like today!!!!!
Do it!!! You'll feel weirdly empowered after you do, ha. Have a great weekend!
xo,
Steph
Great read -thanks for the suggestion.
Of course! Glad you enjoyed it 🙂 Have a great weekend, lady!
xo,
Steph
Bring it to me when you visit!
Done!
This book is actually on my reading list! I had someone tell me I must read it and I bought it from Amazon. It's been on my Kindle for months…I just haven't gotten around to reading. I'm happy to hear it's a 'light read' which makes me move it up on my reading list. Maybe this weekend…
I think I have to read this book